Roy and Roicia (Roy-e-sha) <3

The truth is, 35 years is a long time to wait for a prayer to be answered for a father to be reunited with his daughter, his baby girl who was intentionally and painfully kept from him. This last year (16 months) of building a relationship with my father has been one of the most gracious, unexpected gifts of my life and one I didn’t know I needed, or even felt worthy of. Parental Alienation as a form of psychological warfare is not a new concept, but it is now being discussed and understood on a psychological level and from an emotional one? Unpacking this can take decades because it requires brain maturity and a certain level of emotional intelligence. How fortunate I am to have experienced this firsthand with my husband, and now, unknowingly, after 35 years, I realize that I was also a victim.

Our last visit with each other 9/17/2025

God brought us back together with softened hearts, mature understanding, and a love grounded in forgiveness. Together, we were finally able to lay the broken pieces of the past to rest with truth and love. And the truth is, he did look for me. He did fight for me. He did hire attorneys. He did everything he could with the little he had. God had a plan all along, and even though it hurts deeply to say goodbye so soon, my heart is full knowing we found each other right when we needed it most, with our hearts wide open.

I finally got to hear his heart—his side of the story, his grief, his hopes. On the other side of lifelong pain, I found joy in our reconciliation and in a love I didn’t know I was missing. He was proud of who I became, but even more proud of the husband God placed in my life to love and protect me. He adored Warren. He lit up every time they talked. I could see he recognized in my husband the son he may have always wanted—and even better, the man assigned to care for me the way he always wished he could. I caught his joy retelling a story of us playing hide and seek as a toddler, he laughed hard & said, “You ALWAYS found me.” Saturday, I told him I will keep seeking him, just in spirit. And while he was coherent, we were able to share our hearts one last time.

All I have now are these moments, these clips, and our conversations from the last year. God honors reconciliation, & I know that’s exactly what we accomplished. I will miss you, Dad. This feels so unfair, and it hurts more than I imagined. But I trust God now more than ever, and I know you are still assigned to love and protect me—just in a different way.

My heart is shattered, but I find peace knowing I did right by you. I honored you. I showed up for you. And I loved you with everything I had, man of God, you too were a King.

Sunrise: November 27, 1955

Sunset: December 2, 2025

Your baby girl, Roicia.

Revelation 12:11 NLT

“And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die.”